Effect a cartmate has on your mentality.

BUCKNUT Legend
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I have had a problem with this for as long as I can remember. If I get stuck with someone shooting terrible, I shoot terrible. If I get stuck with someone shooting well, I shoot well. If I ride by myslef, I normally shoot well. I golfed with a regular 4-some for 3 or 4 years and everytime I rode with one particular individual I didn't do worth a damn. He would complain about how many birdie putts he has missed all day long. I tried to divert the subject by telling him there was nothing he could do about it, gotta move on to the next hole. I left them and began just randomly pairing up with other individuals. Some good some bad. I found one cat that was quiet and reserve, not very good (at the time), so I started pairing up with him on a regular basis. Now that he has improved, he excpects to make a birdie every damn hole and if he doesn't he POUTS! Never seen anything like it from a grown 40 y/o man. I mean he seriously pouts. If he doesn't think he has a chance to win the blitz he starts missing 6 inch putts on purpose to sandbag. We got into an argument last Sunday because he purposely sent a 4 inch par putt 20 yards off the green. When I wrote him down for a par he said it was a double. Then he plays around like a little kid and shouts at other groups across the course like he is in a bar. I finally told him last week that I come out there to golf. If he wants to socialize with the other groups he needs to talk to them at 19th hole after the round. After he hits his shot he forgets that there are 3 other people in the group and goes to yapping his cock holster. Anyhow it has come down to the point that I don't enjoy playing with him anymore. I don't play well and basically just spend 4 hours drinking beer and wacking balls. I would really like to just block him out and not cause any drama, but I don't think that is possible at this point. It has gone beyond that breaking point. How do you deal with/ block out troublesome cart partners? They just rub off on me so damn easy it really irritates the hell out of me. Maybe I should start just paying for a whole cart to myself.
JayPet Legend
# 1 10/3/2013 9:54:40 AM
Buck... pushing them off is easiest solution but leads to you being banished from the course. I can't stand a guy whose bad day turns my round into a bad day. The only thing I do that has proven a little bit effective is grabbing a club I need and walking to the ball and getting some "alone time". It requires a little more walking but sometimes just taking the club and putter and getting away is the best remedy. Nobody needs that affecting their game.
Don Freeman Professional Champion
# 2 10/3/2013 10:46:42 AM
I'd tell him to his face to STFU. Then tell him he's acting like an A-hole. I could care less if it offends him. He has already offended me. He will get the message quickly and your problem is solved.
Vincedaddy Legend
# 3 10/3/2013 10:48:33 AM
If you are driving the cart apply a light amount of pressure to their left shoulder in the middle of a sharp left hand turn. Granted the next few minutes will be tense, but you will never have to dread playing with him again.
BUCKNUT Legend
# 4 10/3/2013 10:53:38 AM
The only thing I do that has proven a little bit effective is grabbing a club I need and walking to the ball and getting some "alone time". It requires a little more walking but sometimes just taking the club and putter and getting away is the best remedy. This is what I have been doing. Funny......he began riding along side me while I was walking up a fairway last Sunday and he asked me what I was doing. "Just breaking in my new shoes" I told him.
JayPet Legend
# 5 10/3/2013 11:06:16 AM
I'd tell him to his face to STFU. Then tell him he's acting like an A-hole. I could care less if it offends him. He has already offended me. He will get the message quickly and your problem is solved. It's a good philosophy, because Don did that to me when we played and didn't say a word the rest of the day...
Don Freeman Professional Champion
# 6 10/3/2013 12:36:17 PM
I'd tell him to his face to STFU. Then tell him he's acting like an A-hole. I could care less if it offends him. He has already offended me. He will get the message quickly and your problem is solved. It's a good philosophy, because Don did that to me when we played and didn't say a word the rest of the day... Thats right .We couldn't talk much because we were both laughing most of the time......
BigSwing38 Professional Champion
# 7 10/3/2013 1:19:59 PM
Your playing partner will almost always have an effect on how you play! I try to play with people who are upbeat and positive. I seem to have better scores that way!
cogolfer1 LowIndex
# 8 10/3/2013 5:01:23 PM
I'd tell him to his face to STFU. Then tell him he's acting like an A-hole. I could care less if it offends him. He has already offended me. He will get the message quickly and your problem is solved. ^^^^^ Honesty is the best medicine and cure to anything.
Vincedaddy Legend
# 9 10/3/2013 7:18:47 PM
Or you could do this. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v..
car12old Legend
# 10 10/4/2013 8:20:57 AM
Buck, as I read your post I think you need a break. Chill out, they do not pay your bills so pay them no mind. Best wishes!
HOGAN418 Professional Champion
# 11 10/4/2013 10:50:28 AM
The problem with me is that I tend to want to "help" the other person if it's not a competition. So, I try to empathize and philosophize with the person. But, some people, you can't fix stupid...
Mark Simmons Legend
# 12 10/4/2013 11:40:34 AM
...another alternative is to walk the course.
Glennehurst Professional Champion
# 13 10/4/2013 1:54:42 PM
I agree with Mark, It is time to start walking. Buy a three wheeled cart and walk the course for a while. If you have to play with this guy then that would be my solution. Otherwise quit playing with him and tell him the reason why if he asks. As for your playing partners effecting your game it can if they get too abrasive and angry. I can play with just about anyone now but when I first started it was hard to play with players that took the game too serious. Now I take the game serious but alos like to keep the round loose and upbeat as who wants to spend 4 to 5 hours playing golf miserable. It would definately be a good walk spoiled.
Mark Simmons Legend
# 14 10/4/2013 8:19:44 PM
Now I take the game serious but alos like to keep the round loose and upbeat as who wants to spend 4 to 5 hours playing golf miserable. It would definately be a good walk spoiled. Exactly! Golf is supposed to be fun.
dewsweeper Legend
# 15 10/4/2013 9:08:40 PM
Find another game somewhere else. The good thing about walking is, you do not have to be close to anyone if you prefer. I had always find good company when I paired with stranger when I walked on as a single but in the 30+ years, I did meet a few whom I RATHER NOT HAVE ANYTHING TO DO WITH. Those were the rare occasion when I did not bother to shake hands after the rounds.

Legend

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I have had a problem with this for as long as I can remember. If I get stuck with someone shooting terrible, I shoot terrible. If I get stuck with someone shooting well, I shoot well. If I ride by myslef, I normally shoot well. I golfed with a regular 4-some for 3 or 4 years and everytime I rode with one particular individual I didn't do worth a damn. He would complain about how many birdie putts he has missed all day long. I tried to divert the subject by telling him there was nothing he could do about it, gotta move on to the next hole.

I left them and began just randomly pairing up with other individuals. Some good some bad. I found one cat that was quiet and reserve, not very good (at the time), so I started pairing up with him on a regular basis. Now that he has improved, he excpects to make a birdie every damn hole and if he doesn't he POUTS! Never seen anything like it from a grown 40 y/o man. I mean he seriously pouts. If he doesn't think he has a chance to win the blitz he starts missing 6 inch putts on purpose to sandbag. We got into an argument last Sunday because he purposely sent a 4 inch par putt 20 yards off the green. When I wrote him down for a par he said it was a double. Then he plays around like a little kid and shouts at other groups across the course like he is in a bar. I finally told him last week that I come out there to golf. If he wants to socialize with the other groups he needs to talk to them at 19th hole after the round. After he hits his shot he forgets that there are 3 other people in the group and goes to yapping his cock holster.

Anyhow it has come down to the point that I don't enjoy playing with him anymore. I don't play well and basically just spend 4 hours drinking beer and wacking balls. I would really like to just block him out and not cause any drama, but I don't think that is possible at this point. It has gone beyond that breaking point.

How do you deal with/ block out troublesome cart partners? They just rub off on me so damn easy it really irritates the hell out of me. Maybe I should start just paying for a whole cart to myself.

JayPet

Legend

# 1 10/3/2013 9:54:40 AM

Buck... pushing them off is easiest solution but leads to you being banished from the course. I can't stand a guy whose bad day turns my round into a bad day. The only thing I do that has proven a little bit effective is grabbing a club I need and walking to the ball and getting some "alone time". It requires a little more walking but sometimes just taking the club and putter and getting away is the best remedy. Nobody needs that affecting their game.

Don Freeman

Professional Champion

# 2 10/3/2013 10:46:42 AM

I'd tell him to his face to STFU. Then tell him he's acting like an A-hole. I could care less if it offends him. He has already offended me. He will get the message quickly and your problem is solved.

Vincedaddy

Legend

# 3 10/3/2013 10:48:33 AM

If you are driving the cart apply a light amount of pressure to their left shoulder in the middle of a sharp left hand turn. Granted the next few minutes will be tense, but you will never have to dread playing with him again.

BUCKNUT

Legend

# 4 10/3/2013 10:53:38 AM

The only thing I do that has proven a little bit effective is grabbing a club I need and walking to the ball and getting some "alone time". It requires a little more walking but sometimes just taking the club and putter and getting away is the best remedy.

This is what I have been doing. Funny......he began riding along side me while I was walking up a fairway last Sunday and he asked me what I was doing. "Just breaking in my new shoes" I told him.

JayPet

Legend

# 5 10/3/2013 11:06:16 AM

I'd tell him to his face to STFU. Then tell him he's acting like an A-hole. I could care less if it offends him. He has already offended me. He will get the message quickly and your problem is solved.

It's a good philosophy, because Don did that to me when we played and didn't say a word the rest of the day...

Don Freeman

Professional Champion

# 6 10/3/2013 12:36:17 PM

I'd tell him to his face to STFU. Then tell him he's acting like an A-hole. I could care less if it offends him. He has already offended me. He will get the message quickly and your problem is solved.

It's a good philosophy, because Don did that to me when we played and didn't say a word the rest of the day...

Thats right .We couldn't talk much because we were both laughing most of the time......

BigSwing38

Professional Champion

# 7 10/3/2013 1:19:59 PM

Your playing partner will almost always have an effect on how you play! I try to play with people who are upbeat and positive. I seem to have better scores that way!

cogolfer1

LowIndex

# 8 10/3/2013 5:01:23 PM

I'd tell him to his face to STFU. Then tell him he's acting like an A-hole. I could care less if it offends him. He has already offended me. He will get the message quickly and your problem is solved.

^^^^^ Honesty is the best medicine and cure to anything.

Vincedaddy

Legend

# 9 10/3/2013 7:18:47 PM

Or you could do this.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v..

car12old

Legend

# 10 10/4/2013 8:20:57 AM

Buck, as I read your post I think you need a break. Chill out, they do not pay your bills so pay them no mind. Best wishes!

HOGAN418

Professional Champion

# 11 10/4/2013 10:50:28 AM

The problem with me is that I tend to want to "help" the other person if it's not a competition. So, I try to empathize and philosophize with the person. But, some people, you can't fix stupid...

Mark Simmons

Legend

# 12 10/4/2013 11:40:34 AM

...another alternative is to walk the course.

Glennehurst

Professional Champion

# 13 10/4/2013 1:54:42 PM

I agree with Mark, It is time to start walking. Buy a three wheeled cart and walk the course for a while. If you have to play with this guy then that would be my solution. Otherwise quit playing with him and tell him the reason why if he asks. As for your playing partners effecting your game it can if they get too abrasive and angry. I can play with just about anyone now but when I first started it was hard to play with players that took the game too serious. Now I take the game serious but alos like to keep the round loose and upbeat as who wants to spend 4 to 5 hours playing golf miserable. It would definately be a good walk spoiled.

Mark Simmons

Legend

# 14 10/4/2013 8:19:44 PM

Now I take the game serious but alos like to keep the round loose and upbeat as who wants to spend 4 to 5 hours playing golf miserable. It would definately be a good walk spoiled.

Exactly! Golf is supposed to be fun.

dewsweeper

Legend

# 15 10/4/2013 9:08:40 PM

Find another game somewhere else.

The good thing about walking is, you do not have to be close to anyone if you prefer. I had always find good company when I paired with stranger when I walked on as a single but in the 30+ years, I did meet a few whom I RATHER NOT HAVE ANYTHING TO DO WITH. Those were the rare occasion when I did not bother to shake hands after the rounds.

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