Has golf ever interfered with relationships?

Rule13dash1 Professional
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I was posting to another thread about golf being a lifestyle, when I thought that this aspect might be a good topic on it own. Have your relationships ever suffered as a result of golf. Has your partner ever been jealous of the game? It seems like just about every girlfriend I've ever had, even though they started out thinking golf was cool, eventually thought it was a selfish indulgence, which took time away from her and our relationship. I beg to differ. Looking back on it, their neediness was the selfish indulgence. It wasn't golf. I saw some dude the other day who had his girlfriend riding with him, watching every swing and cheering him on. I thought, "That poor schmuck. In six months, she'll be calling him every 15 minutes asking when he'll be done". I may sound jaded. I probably am, but I think I know the cure. I need to find a woman who is as obsessed about playing golf as I am. I need to start by asking to see her handicap card on the first date. That should be the first question. "What kind of clubs do you play?", should be the second. What do you think?
Robert Premeaux Jr. Professional Champion
# 1 7/30/2011 10:03:09 PM
no ... and the idiots taking their non-playing girlfriends to the course, good luck with that.
cogolfer1 LowIndex
# 2 7/30/2011 10:14:31 PM
Never had this issue. Mainly because I'm never playing golf at night, especially Friday or Saturday nights. :) Of the 6 girlfriends I've had that have failed quite miserably, only 1 played golf and she and I never got the chance to play a round together, and another, my most recent has a brother who plays college golf but she doesn't play herself. None of the others had any tie in with the game that I know of, but at the same time were completely fine with me playing.
LukeTuzinski Professional Champion
# 3 7/31/2011 1:36:10 AM
Really one or both of 2 things would be ideal. 1. A partner that plays golf 2. A partner that is secure enough to let you have some time to yourself It is somewhat difficult these days. With every form of media constantly bombarding us with real or perceived relationship drama a lot of people ok, ladies, take a sort of "me too" stance. They might not even actually care that you spend a few hours golfing, but if there are no other sources of friction golf might be a nice scapegoat to create drama.
OtterMan08 Legend
# 4 7/31/2011 5:41:20 AM
I was already married to, or at least "with" my wife when I took up the game. Not sure of the exact timeline. I don't think it's ever been a serious issue in our relationship. I think we benefit from a similar need for our own space. She has her stuff, I have my stuff, we have our stuff. Over 25 years, it's worked out OK! We have a timeshare week in Maryland in the Fall. I get to get up early and play 36, she gets to sleep late and go to the beach to read. In the evening we go out together for dinner and drinks. Neediness and selfish indulgence cut both ways. Some people think there needs to be a little give and take in a relationship. They're dead wrong, there needs to be a lot!!! of give and take in a successful relationship. I got married late, I was 33. I often think if I had married at 19, I'd have married at 26 and then again at 33. I wasn't ready to give up on selfish indulgence. I had my stuff, most girlfriends I knew had their stuff. Sometimes I did her stuff with her, sometimes she did my stuff with me. I took quite awhile, at for me, to even grasp to concept of "our stuff". Golf does not exist as a separate sub-division of life. It's part of a larger whole. When relationships suffer, it's not because of your golf or her friends or whatever the dust-up d'jour is. That's just the window dressing trying to cover up the real issues. Girlfriends come, girlfriends go don't sweat the small stuff. Just like a good golf swing, when it happens, you'll know. That solid feel, the pure tone off the face, you don't even have to watch the ball any more. Just go out a long, long way and it's right there in the middle of the fairway...
Mongo68 Legend
# 5 7/31/2011 6:48:14 AM
I was already married to, or at least "with" my wife when I took up the game. Not sure of the exact timeline. I don't think it's ever been a serious issue in our relationship. I think we benefit from a similar need for our own space. She has her stuff, I have my stuff, we have our stuff. Over 25 years, it's worked out OK! We have a timeshare week in Maryland in the Fall. I get to get up early and play 36, she gets to sleep late and go to the beach to read. In the evening we go out together for dinner and drinks. Neediness and selfish indulgence cut both ways. Some people think there needs to be a little give and take in a relationship. They're dead wrong, there needs to be a lot!!! of give and take in a successful relationship. I got married late, I was 33. I often think if I had married at 19, I'd have married at 26 and then again at 33. I wasn't ready to give up on selfish indulgence. I had my stuff, most girlfriends I knew had their stuff. Sometimes I did her stuff with her, sometimes she did my stuff with me. I took quite awhile, at for me, to even grasp to concept of "our stuff". Golf does not exist as a separate sub-division of life. It's part of a larger whole. When relationships suffer, it's not because of your golf or her friends or whatever the dust-up d'jour is. That's just the window dressing trying to cover up the real issues. Girlfriends come, girlfriends go don't sweat the small stuff. Just like a good golf swing, when it happens, you'll know. That solid feel, the pure tone off the face, you don't even have to watch the ball any more. Just go out a long, long way and it's right there in the middle of the fairway... Otter, you read my mind. I couldn't agree with you (or myself) more.
LukeTuzinski Professional Champion
# 6 7/31/2011 10:40:35 AM
I was already married to, or at least "with" my wife when I took up the game. Not sure of the exact timeline. I don't think it's ever been a serious issue in our relationship. I think we benefit from a similar need for our own space. She has her stuff, I have my stuff, we have our stuff. Over 25 years, it's worked out OK! We have a timeshare week in Maryland in the Fall. I get to get up early and play 36, she gets to sleep late and go to the beach to read. In the evening we go out together for dinner and drinks. Neediness and selfish indulgence cut both ways. Some people think there needs to be a little give and take in a relationship. They're dead wrong, there needs to be a lot!!! of give and take in a successful relationship. I got married late, I was 33. I often think if I had married at 19, I'd have married at 26 and then again at 33. I wasn't ready to give up on selfish indulgence. I had my stuff, most girlfriends I knew had their stuff. Sometimes I did her stuff with her, sometimes she did my stuff with me. I took quite awhile, at for me, to even grasp to concept of "our stuff". Golf does not exist as a separate sub-division of life. It's part of a larger whole. When relationships suffer, it's not because of your golf or her friends or whatever the dust-up d'jour is. That's just the window dressing trying to cover up the real issues. Girlfriends come, girlfriends go don't sweat the small stuff. Just like a good golf swing, when it happens, you'll know. That solid feel, the pure tone off the face, you don't even have to watch the ball any more. Just go out a long, long way and it's right there in the middle of the fairway... Those are some fantastic insights.
Mark Simmons Legend
# 7 7/31/2011 3:43:04 PM
My wife and I both enjoy the game and have been married since age 20. Golf doesn't get in the way when, like earlier this month, we had a family wedding in another state coming up and the wife says, "Hey, let's take a couple additional days off and play a couple rounds of golf together." We also got in a play at the Oregon Shakespearean Festival. Not Duckhunter's cup of tea, but we like it. Companionship is a wonderful thing!
Mark Simmons Legend
# 8 7/31/2011 3:48:33 PM
P.S. OtterMan had some great comments. Know when YOU and your partner are ready to be the husband or wife you need to be. That point came earlier for me than OtterMan, but it's a whole lot more important to get there than how long it takes to do so.
BUCKNUT Legend
# 9 7/31/2011 4:03:15 PM
Nope, but relationships have interfered with my golf. From 1998 to 2008 I never swung a club do yo insecure women, and me thinking I could make the unmakable happen. Wish I new then what I know now. No telling where I would be in my game. Not to mention bank accounts. Lol It was all worth it though I have the best lil girl anyone could ask for now. That's worth 10 years of golf.
armygrunt47 Professional Champion
# 10 7/31/2011 5:05:42 PM
My girlfriend rode with me today. She likes keeping my stats and score when she is there. She usually sits in the cart with her iPod and listens to music. She has even walked 18 with me before but I had her bring a small set of speakers so we could both listen to the music while we were walking. There was only a 3 month period when we first started dating that I didnt play much golf but I think the winter weather had alot to do with that. She knows that I play every wednesday and atleast one round on the weekends and so we usually plan around those times. She loves going to the movies and shopping for shoes so we go do that whenever we have the extra money. She even started shooting pistals with me when we first got together. Now she has more of them than I do and has her concealled carry permit. We have never had an argument about playing golf or practicing and I have never said anything about her blowing money on shoes that she will only wear once. I think that she knows that I could be doing alot worse things than playing golf so she doesnt mind me playing.
Steve Bigtazz Rayburn Professional Champion
# 11 7/31/2011 6:26:15 PM
I was already married to, or at least "with" my wife when I took up the game. Not sure of the exact timeline. I don't think it's ever been a serious issue in our relationship. I think we benefit from a similar need for our own space. She has her stuff, I have my stuff, we have our stuff. Over 25 years, it's worked out OK! We have a timeshare week in Maryland in the Fall. I get to get up early and play 36, she gets to sleep late and go to the beach to read. In the evening we go out together for dinner and drinks. Neediness and selfish indulgence cut both ways. Some people think there needs to be a little give and take in a relationship. They're dead wrong, there needs to be a lot!!! of give and take in a successful relationship. I got married late, I was 33. I often think if I had married at 19, I'd have married at 26 and then again at 33. I wasn't ready to give up on selfish indulgence. I had my stuff, most girlfriends I knew had their stuff. Sometimes I did her stuff with her, sometimes she did my stuff with me. I took quite awhile, at for me, to even grasp to concept of "our stuff". Golf does not exist as a separate sub-division of life. It's part of a larger whole. When relationships suffer, it's not because of your golf or her friends or whatever the dust-up d'jour is. That's just the window dressing trying to cover up the real issues. Girlfriends come, girlfriends go don't sweat the small stuff. Just like a good golf swing, when it happens, you'll know. That solid feel, the pure tone off the face, you don't even have to watch the ball any more. Just go out a long, long way and it's right there in the middle of the fairway... Nice and true ole wise one Myself, after 17 yrs, we give and get. When I'm playing, no calls or text, I never asked my wife not to, she just knew lol Buddy I play with sometimes is just the opposite, his phone is always blowing up. I tell him to turn it off, life will be ok for 4 hours. Can always call the clubhouse if it is a real emergency and they'll send out someone to fetch ya. I hope....
mtags LowIndex
# 12 7/31/2011 9:46:05 PM
This is one of the reasons I play at 5:30am sunday mornings. I've been playing at that time for over 20 yrs. My wife doesn't even know im gone. Never gotten in the way of family plans, so no problems.
PullMyFinger Professional Champion
# 13 7/31/2011 10:39:04 PM
Had a few dust ups the first year I played, when I fell into the stereotypical pattern of 5 hour rounds drinking beer in a cart with my buddies. Not so much due to time taken from wife as it was time taken away from coaching and attending our kids sports. Problem was solved the second year when I realized I could turn golf into my exercise program and ditch the damn treadmill time in the basement. Now I golf 9 holes almost every morning at 6:30 AM. Walk the 9 wi bag on my back in 75 minutes makes for good work out. Back home by 8AM, and no one misses me. More recently it has impoved even more by getting my sons hooked on golf too. Now we can all go out together and it counts as family time and feeds my habit!
Robert Premeaux Jr. Professional Champion
# 14 8/1/2011 1:03:38 AM
Really one or both of 2 things would be ideal. 1. A partner that plays golf 2. A partner that is secure enough to let you have some time to yourself. Yes and yes. If you can find one of those two things, you're in the Top 10 of life.
BUCKNUT Legend
# 15 8/1/2011 8:22:05 AM
My marriage is on the rocks right now and golf is a huge part of the reason why. When me and my wife first got married I did not play. I only picked up the game right before my first son was born. I would like to play at least every other week, but right now I am lucky to get out once a month. I am not able to practice at all, except hit foam balls in my garage after the kids are asleep, and then my wife gets mad at me because I am not spending time with her. She does not like talking care of the kids by herself and is always calling or texting me while I am on the course. This bombardment of calls and texts makes me try and rush through the round and get home, which ruins the experience. The not taking care of the kids on her own really gives me fits. I have no problem taking care of the kids, in fact it is usually fun. My wife travels for work and can be gone for more than a week at a time, and I get by just fine. I try and get her out of the house on the weekends to do something with her friends and I will take care of the kids but she rarely goes. I do not think golf made her this way, I just think it has showed me who she is or has become, and I am not sure I can deal with that person. RUT ROH RAGGIE!!!! Coming from a single father of 1 with full custody I can see your point in her not wanting to take care of the kids by herself deal, and that you have no problem. The crazy bi@tch that mothered my child must of called me 10 times in the 2 months of summer break that she had my daughter with "issues". I just laugh and tell her to deal with them. I have her for 9 month's and do not call her for ANYTHING! Child support, clothes, supplies NOTHEING! I deal with everything and she can't handle her for 3 month's!!! Come on now!!!! Good thing we are not together anymore. If I was with that nutcase, I'd still be in my "not swinging a club" status. Now don't go out and leave her because of what I said. It took several years and quite o bit of money and headaches to get to the point I am finally at, but I can atleast golf stress free now. Poor fellow I golf with also gets a call from his wife about every 2 holes! I can tell it really bother's him.

Rule13dash1

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I was posting to another thread about golf being a lifestyle, when I thought that this aspect might be a good topic on it own.

Have your relationships ever suffered as a result of golf. Has your partner ever been jealous of the game?

It seems like just about every girlfriend I've ever had, even though they started out thinking golf was cool, eventually thought it was a selfish indulgence, which took time away from her and our relationship. I beg to differ. Looking back on it, their neediness was the selfish indulgence. It wasn't golf.

I saw some dude the other day who had his girlfriend riding with him, watching every swing and cheering him on. I thought, "That poor schmuck. In six months, she'll be calling him every 15 minutes asking when he'll be done".

I may sound jaded. I probably am, but I think I know the cure. I need to find a woman who is as obsessed about playing golf as I am. I need to start by asking to see her handicap card on the first date. That should be the first question. "What kind of clubs do you play?", should be the second.

What do you think?

Robert Premeaux Jr.

Professional Champion

# 1 7/30/2011 10:03:09 PM

no

... and the idiots taking their non-playing girlfriends to the course, good luck with that.

cogolfer1

LowIndex

# 2 7/30/2011 10:14:31 PM

Never had this issue. Mainly because I'm never playing golf at night, especially Friday or Saturday nights. :) Of the 6 girlfriends I've had that have failed quite miserably, only 1 played golf and she and I never got the chance to play a round together, and another, my most recent has a brother who plays college golf but she doesn't play herself. None of the others had any tie in with the game that I know of, but at the same time were completely fine with me playing.

LukeTuzinski

Professional Champion

# 3 7/31/2011 1:36:10 AM

Really one or both of 2 things would be ideal.

1. A partner that plays golf
2. A partner that is secure enough to let you have some time to yourself

It is somewhat difficult these days. With every form of media constantly bombarding us with real or perceived relationship drama a lot of people ok, ladies, take a sort of "me too" stance. They might not even actually care that you spend a few hours golfing, but if there are no other sources of friction golf might be a nice scapegoat to create drama.

OtterMan08

Legend

# 4 7/31/2011 5:41:20 AM

I was already married to, or at least "with" my wife when I took up the game. Not sure of the exact timeline. I don't think it's ever been a serious issue in our relationship. I think we benefit from a similar need for our own space. She has her stuff, I have my stuff, we have our stuff. Over 25 years, it's worked out OK! We have a timeshare week in Maryland in the Fall. I get to get up early and play 36, she gets to sleep late and go to the beach to read. In the evening we go out together for dinner and drinks.

Neediness and selfish indulgence cut both ways. Some people think there needs to be a little give and take in a relationship. They're dead wrong, there needs to be a lot!!! of give and take in a successful relationship. I got married late, I was 33. I often think if I had married at 19, I'd have married at 26 and then again at 33. I wasn't ready to give up on selfish indulgence. I had my stuff, most girlfriends I knew had their stuff. Sometimes I did her stuff with her, sometimes she did my stuff with me. I took quite awhile, at for me, to even grasp to concept of "our stuff".

Golf does not exist as a separate sub-division of life. It's part of a larger whole. When relationships suffer, it's not because of your golf or her friends or whatever the dust-up d'jour is. That's just the window dressing trying to cover up the real issues. Girlfriends come, girlfriends go don't sweat the small stuff. Just like a good golf swing, when it happens, you'll know. That solid feel, the pure tone off the face, you don't even have to watch the ball any more. Just go out a long, long way and it's right there in the middle of the fairway...

Mongo68

Legend

# 5 7/31/2011 6:48:14 AM

I was already married to, or at least "with" my wife when I took up the game. Not sure of the exact timeline. I don't think it's ever been a serious issue in our relationship. I think we benefit from a similar need for our own space. She has her stuff, I have my stuff, we have our stuff. Over 25 years, it's worked out OK! We have a timeshare week in Maryland in the Fall. I get to get up early and play 36, she gets to sleep late and go to the beach to read. In the evening we go out together for dinner and drinks.

Neediness and selfish indulgence cut both ways. Some people think there needs to be a little give and take in a relationship. They're dead wrong, there needs to be a lot!!! of give and take in a successful relationship. I got married late, I was 33. I often think if I had married at 19, I'd have married at 26 and then again at 33. I wasn't ready to give up on selfish indulgence. I had my stuff, most girlfriends I knew had their stuff. Sometimes I did her stuff with her, sometimes she did my stuff with me. I took quite awhile, at for me, to even grasp to concept of "our stuff".

Golf does not exist as a separate sub-division of life. It's part of a larger whole. When relationships suffer, it's not because of your golf or her friends or whatever the dust-up d'jour is. That's just the window dressing trying to cover up the real issues. Girlfriends come, girlfriends go don't sweat the small stuff. Just like a good golf swing, when it happens, you'll know. That solid feel, the pure tone off the face, you don't even have to watch the ball any more. Just go out a long, long way and it's right there in the middle of the fairway...

Otter, you read my mind. I couldn't agree with you (or myself) more.

LukeTuzinski

Professional Champion

# 6 7/31/2011 10:40:35 AM

I was already married to, or at least "with" my wife when I took up the game. Not sure of the exact timeline. I don't think it's ever been a serious issue in our relationship. I think we benefit from a similar need for our own space. She has her stuff, I have my stuff, we have our stuff. Over 25 years, it's worked out OK! We have a timeshare week in Maryland in the Fall. I get to get up early and play 36, she gets to sleep late and go to the beach to read. In the evening we go out together for dinner and drinks.

Neediness and selfish indulgence cut both ways. Some people think there needs to be a little give and take in a relationship. They're dead wrong, there needs to be a lot!!! of give and take in a successful relationship. I got married late, I was 33. I often think if I had married at 19, I'd have married at 26 and then again at 33. I wasn't ready to give up on selfish indulgence. I had my stuff, most girlfriends I knew had their stuff. Sometimes I did her stuff with her, sometimes she did my stuff with me. I took quite awhile, at for me, to even grasp to concept of "our stuff".

Golf does not exist as a separate sub-division of life. It's part of a larger whole. When relationships suffer, it's not because of your golf or her friends or whatever the dust-up d'jour is. That's just the window dressing trying to cover up the real issues. Girlfriends come, girlfriends go don't sweat the small stuff. Just like a good golf swing, when it happens, you'll know. That solid feel, the pure tone off the face, you don't even have to watch the ball any more. Just go out a long, long way and it's right there in the middle of the fairway...

Those are some fantastic insights.

Mark Simmons

Legend

# 7 7/31/2011 3:43:04 PM

My wife and I both enjoy the game and have been married since age 20. Golf doesn't get in the way when, like earlier this month, we had a family wedding in another state coming up and the wife says, "Hey, let's take a couple additional days off and play a couple rounds of golf together."

We also got in a play at the Oregon Shakespearean Festival. Not Duckhunter's cup of tea, but we like it. Companionship is a wonderful thing!

Mark Simmons

Legend

# 8 7/31/2011 3:48:33 PM

P.S. OtterMan had some great comments. Know when YOU and your partner are ready to be the husband or wife you need to be. That point came earlier for me than OtterMan, but it's a whole lot more important to get there than how long it takes to do so.

BUCKNUT

Legend

# 9 7/31/2011 4:03:15 PM

Nope, but relationships have interfered with my golf. From 1998 to 2008 I never swung a club do yo insecure women, and me thinking I could make the unmakable happen. Wish I new then what I know now. No telling where I would be in my game. Not to mention bank accounts. Lol It was all worth it though I have the best lil girl anyone could ask for now. That's worth 10 years of golf.

armygrunt47

Professional Champion

# 10 7/31/2011 5:05:42 PM

My girlfriend rode with me today. She likes keeping my stats and score when she is there. She usually sits in the cart with her iPod and listens to music. She has even walked 18 with me before but I had her bring a small set of speakers so we could both listen to the music while we were walking. There was only a 3 month period when we first started dating that I didnt play much golf but I think the winter weather had alot to do with that. She knows that I play every wednesday and atleast one round on the weekends and so we usually plan around those times. She loves going to the movies and shopping for shoes so we go do that whenever we have the extra money. She even started shooting pistals with me when we first got together. Now she has more of them than I do and has her concealled carry permit. We have never had an argument about playing golf or practicing and I have never said anything about her blowing money on shoes that she will only wear once. I think that she knows that I could be doing alot worse things than playing golf so she doesnt mind me playing.

Steve Bigtazz Rayburn

Professional Champion

# 11 7/31/2011 6:26:15 PM

I was already married to, or at least "with" my wife when I took up the game. Not sure of the exact timeline. I don't think it's ever been a serious issue in our relationship. I think we benefit from a similar need for our own space. She has her stuff, I have my stuff, we have our stuff. Over 25 years, it's worked out OK! We have a timeshare week in Maryland in the Fall. I get to get up early and play 36, she gets to sleep late and go to the beach to read. In the evening we go out together for dinner and drinks.

Neediness and selfish indulgence cut both ways. Some people think there needs to be a little give and take in a relationship. They're dead wrong, there needs to be a lot!!! of give and take in a successful relationship. I got married late, I was 33. I often think if I had married at 19, I'd have married at 26 and then again at 33. I wasn't ready to give up on selfish indulgence. I had my stuff, most girlfriends I knew had their stuff. Sometimes I did her stuff with her, sometimes she did my stuff with me. I took quite awhile, at for me, to even grasp to concept of "our stuff".

Golf does not exist as a separate sub-division of life. It's part of a larger whole. When relationships suffer, it's not because of your golf or her friends or whatever the dust-up d'jour is. That's just the window dressing trying to cover up the real issues. Girlfriends come, girlfriends go don't sweat the small stuff. Just like a good golf swing, when it happens, you'll know. That solid feel, the pure tone off the face, you don't even have to watch the ball any more. Just go out a long, long way and it's right there in the middle of the fairway...

Nice and true ole wise one
Myself, after 17 yrs, we give and get. When I'm playing, no calls or text, I never asked my wife not to, she just knew lol
Buddy I play with sometimes is just the opposite, his phone is always blowing up. I tell him to turn it off, life will be ok for 4 hours.
Can always call the clubhouse if it is a real emergency and they'll send out someone to fetch ya.
I hope....

mtags

LowIndex

# 12 7/31/2011 9:46:05 PM

This is one of the reasons I play at 5:30am sunday mornings. I've been playing at that time for over 20 yrs. My wife doesn't even know im gone. Never gotten in the way of family plans, so no problems.

PullMyFinger

Professional Champion

# 13 7/31/2011 10:39:04 PM

Had a few dust ups the first year I played, when I fell into the stereotypical pattern of 5 hour rounds drinking beer in a cart with my buddies. Not so much due to time taken from wife as it was time taken away from coaching and attending our kids sports. Problem was solved the second year when I realized I could turn golf into my exercise program and ditch the damn treadmill time in the basement. Now I golf 9 holes almost every morning at 6:30 AM. Walk the 9 wi bag on my back in 75 minutes makes for good work out. Back home by 8AM, and no one misses me. More recently it has impoved even more by getting my sons hooked on golf too. Now we can all go out together and it counts as family time and feeds my habit!

Robert Premeaux Jr.

Professional Champion

# 14 8/1/2011 1:03:38 AM

Really one or both of 2 things would be ideal.

1. A partner that plays golf
2. A partner that is secure enough to let you have some time to yourself.

Yes and yes. If you can find one of those two things, you're in the Top 10 of life.

BUCKNUT

Legend

# 15 8/1/2011 8:22:05 AM

My marriage is on the rocks right now and golf is a huge part of the reason why. When me and my wife first got married I did not play. I only picked up the game right before my first son was born. I would like to play at least every other week, but right now I am lucky to get out once a month. I am not able to practice at all, except hit foam balls in my garage after the kids are asleep, and then my wife gets mad at me because I am not spending time with her. She does not like talking care of the kids by herself and is always calling or texting me while I am on the course. This bombardment of calls and texts makes me try and rush through the round and get home, which ruins the experience.

The not taking care of the kids on her own really gives me fits. I have no problem taking care of the kids, in fact it is usually fun. My wife travels for work and can be gone for more than a week at a time, and I get by just fine. I try and get her out of the house on the weekends to do something with her friends and I will take care of the kids but she rarely goes. I do not think golf made her this way, I just think it has showed me who she is or has become, and I am not sure I can deal with that person.

RUT ROH RAGGIE!!!! Coming from a single father of 1 with full custody I can see your point in her not wanting to take care of the kids by herself deal, and that you have no problem. The crazy bi@tch that mothered my child must of called me 10 times in the 2 months of summer break that she had my daughter with "issues". I just laugh and tell her to deal with them. I have her for 9 month's and do not call her for ANYTHING! Child support, clothes, supplies NOTHEING! I deal with everything and she can't handle her for 3 month's!!! Come on now!!!! Good thing we are not together anymore. If I was with that nutcase, I'd still be in my "not swinging a club" status. Now don't go out and leave her because of what I said. It took several years and quite o bit of money and headaches to get to the point I am finally at, but I can atleast golf stress free now. Poor fellow I golf with also gets a call from his wife about every 2 holes! I can tell it really bother's him.

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