I'm 30 years old and I'm sitting in my office at my job wondering when or if I'll ever get my clubs out of the basement. I've been playing this game for 25 years. There is something wrong with me, I'll admit. It's not golf's fault. But yesterday, while playing a quiet round by myself, I was 8-over on the 9th tee. I took a look down the hole and thought "I might just make this the last hole of the day" having already paid for 18. I hit my tee ball long and left. Another fairway missed. I went looking for it and after a couple of minutes, stopped looking and walked straight back to the parking lot and left the course. I got home and put my clubs in the basement and turned down a round this afternoon. This was not an isolated incident. Lately, I can't find the sweet spot on my putter, forget a 3-iron. My ballstriking has been so inconsistent as of late, I want to cry. Or break my clubs. I don't seem to care which.
See, I grew up right on a golf course. My first job was on a golf course. I played all the time when I was younger. I carried a 1 or better handicap for years and know what it feels like to shoot a 67 on a 7000+ yard course. I was a decent player for a long time.
But then real life hit. I got a real career, and a wife. Now kids. I play 9 holes, once a week, and it's usually a scramble of some sort of team event. I know that I can't play all the time anymore, but I can't seem to enjoy not playing my best. I'm not having any fun playing golf. I used to live and breath this game. I couldn't wait to get out there and give 100%! I talked about golf at dinner, I wore golf hats and golf shirts all the time. I was mad when the TV didn't carry golf on the weekends. I had the killer instinct on the course that made me not care about a ball in the water or a 3-putt. There was always a birdie around the corner.
But no more. It seems that a 3-putt is now enough to make me want to go home. I want to be anywhere but on the course. I feel angry with myself, and then I become ashamed of myself when I remember that there are golfers that would kill to break 100. The game of golf has now brought out a very ugly, selfish side of me that I didn't think (hoped maybe?) I had in me. Golf is funny that way. It's in my head and that is what makes it the hardest game by far and away on the planet. I find no enjoyment playing golf below my potential. I'm sitting here wondering if I'm alone on this one.
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PeteG512
6/7/2010 3:33:35 PM Don't Give up |
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markwenholz
6/7/2010 3:29:55 PM Seem's I have been in that slump for the past month or two. Only 1 round in last 5 under 80 and for me that is not good. My swing as yours was just way off. The harder I tried to correct it the worse it go. My last round came back a little better after a very small swing change that has me hitting most fairways or just off the edge. Don't over think too much. Get back to the basics. Just go to the range and tell yourself I'm not going to try to hit a fade or draw. I'm just going to lineup and swing. You may find that you might get in some sort of rythem. At that point try working to your target a little more. Hang in there. It will come around. |
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HIGH_LANDER
6/7/2010 2:20:42 PM HANG IN THERE! Dandy...hit em long & straight. |
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Brando
7/10/2009 10:22:42 AM I sympathize with your feelings being the same caliber player. My attachment to the game is a roller coaster ride depending on how well I am playing. I know it shouldn't be that way. But I can't help to want to play well. It is so easy to get your swing out-of-sync. Maybe get some advice from a fellow player who is playing better than you. I just did... and am now playing better. He noticed a few small things I was doing wrong. The difference between shooting 80 and 70, is the little things (often overlooked).lp to want to play well. It is so easy to get your swing out-of-sync. Maybe get some advice from a fellow player who is playing better than you. I just did... and am now playing better. He noticed a few small things I was doing wrong. The difference between shooting 80 and 70, is the little things (often overlooked). |
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clvalentino
7/8/2009 2:19:21 PM just keep in mind that you are lucky to have the opportunity to be able to play the game, if im ever getting frustrated on the course i just remind myself that there are far worse things i could be doing than spending a few hours outside on a nice summer day........like work. stick with it your gonna find your swing again.ing than spending a few hours outside on a nice summer day........like work. stick with it your gonna find your swing again. |
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Goynes42
7/8/2009 10:17:35 AM Dandy, stick with it buddy. Golf is a game for a lifetime. If you seek a teacher, I would offer some advice: Find a teacher who will teach you basic fundamentals. A guy (or gal) who really is hard-nosed about proper grip, stance, and motion. Don't go to a guy that just shows you a bunch of "positions" that you need to be in. Those never last...and you end up thinking about those little things during the swing--bye-bye low scores. If you can go back to fundamentals, those will carry you through a bad round. When you hit a bad shot, you can go through your short fundamental checklist before the next shot, and you're back in business. And just remember, those good scores are still there. YOU were the one that shot that 67. It wasn't some other version of you. If you were there once, you can get there again.rd-nosed about proper grip, stance, and motion. Don't go to a guy that just shows you a bunch of "positions" that you need to be in. Those never last...and you end up thinking about those little things during the swing--bye-bye low scores. If you can go back to fundamentals, those will carry you through a bad round. When you hit a bad shot, you can go through your short fundamental checklist before the next shot, and you're back in business. And just remember, those good scores are still there. YOU were the one that shot that 67. It wasn't some other version of you. If you were there once, you can get there again. |
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AsianPoulter
7/8/2009 12:14:19 AM you mentioned being upset when there wasn't weekend golf coverage on tv. do yourself a favor and watch the tournament this weekend. a certain david duval will be participating and i fully expect he will have a good showing. If someone knows something about losing his game and still sticking to it, duval would be that guy. maybe you'll find some solace in thatill have a good showing. If someone knows something about losing his game and still sticking to it, duval would be that guy. maybe you'll find some solace in that |
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PISC
7/7/2009 12:50:16 PM Dandy....you for got why you play brother! Life changes, your game changes, but I bet you just flat out love golf! So what, you make a bad shoot hear and there and only shoot 85, the important thing is you are still doing something you love to do! This game humbles us all, in many different ways! Enjoy it, prety soon you will be sharing that love/passion with your kids! Golf is full of life experiences!!!!!!s you are still doing something you love to do! This game humbles us all, in many different ways! Enjoy it, prety soon you will be sharing that love/passion with your kids! Golf is full of life experiences!!!!!! |
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Dandy
7/7/2009 12:33:34 PM Thanks all for the encouragement. You're all right of course. It's good to hear the stories of people regretting leaving the game. I don't know that I can. It's been a week and I'm going crazy! So I'll take the good advice posted here and get out again soon. I just booked myself in for my first ever formal lesson. I guess I'll just have to harden up up and power through this. There should be a formal Stracka therapy group on here. With the great sense of community on this site (especially for a group of people who have never met in person), it would put Rotella out of business! And one step closer to Stracka world domination!l take the good advice posted here and get out again soon. I just booked myself in for my first ever formal lesson. I guess I'll just have to harden up up and power through this. There should be a formal Stracka therapy group on here. With the great sense of community on this site (especially for a group of people who have never met in person), it would put Rotella out of business! And one step closer to Stracka world domination! |
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phil4247
7/6/2009 1:00:40 PM Keep your head up, I don't know what is like to shoot a low score. But I just go out once a week and enjoy the game, the beers and my family and friends. When I first started playing I was always in the 100's now I'm in the low 90's high 80's (took me 6 years to get there). Look at it like this, If Charles Barkely can still play and enjoy the game so can you.he 100's now I'm in the low 90's high 80's (took me 6 years to get there). Look at it like this, If Charles Barkely can still play and enjoy the game so can you. |
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pjcedog
7/6/2009 12:46:59 PM Just get out and play, it is a game, enjoy it, if we could all shoot par or better we would all be pros and the game would be too easy. Bogey on every hole you play is actually much better than the aed like I know I can a few days after that and shot a 75. Don't give up, you will lose way more than you would ever gain from not playing again. It is the greatest game in the world without a doubt and in a few years you will look back and say to yourself "Am I glad I stuck with it". |
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pjcedog
7/6/2009 12:46:59 PM Just get out and play, it is a game, enjoy it, if we could all shoot par or better we would all be pros and the game would be too easy. Bogey on every hole you play is actually much better than the average golfer scores, actually for anyone other than a professional bogey is par. Also, get back to basics. Just hitting the ball is fun, few things are more fun than knocking the 'stuffing' (expletive replaced) out of a golf ball. Learn to enjoy just hitting the ball for no reason, just for the sake of hitting the ball. It will help you enjoy the good shots, ignore the bad ones and the game will be fun again. I wanted to just give up myself a few weeks ago after shooting just under 100 in a stroke play tournament - 100!! I barely made it home without throwing my clubs into the lake. But I realized after cooling off that it was my head that was the problem not my game or my clubs, it was my perspective and perception that needed to change, and my expectations. My attitude needed re-tooling in order to be able to play better, and part of that was to go back and just play the way a kid plays the game, just swing hard and laugh about the gopher balls and go on. I went out and play |
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bradley894
7/6/2009 11:17:02 AM hey dandy ive been there.. though never scratch i did play strong in high school and for small comunity school.. still havent been able to get back to the scores of 20+ years ago.. Its funny that im a smarter golfer now.. better equipment by far... maybe thinking too much but im trying to get back to that old game yet at the time i didnt realize it but a couple buckets a day... some time on the practice greens and 18 holes minimum a day durring golf season helped a bunch! my son got me exited about golf to start playing again with him... go play some short par 3 courses with someone you love. teach the game to somone new on a level where the long ball doesnt matter as much.. take what you have learned and share it with somone and you may find a new love for the game and you will be putting balls in the living room and chipping in the back yard in no time. my advise is introduce somone new to the game and you will find out how good of a golfer you already are! HECK YA IT SUCKS TO not play as well as the past! your not alone.. and some make it look so easy too! they suck~! |
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badgolfergreg
7/5/2009 9:21:33 PM I've had a similar problem. Except I'm not in the "can't shoot what I once could" camp. I just could never get better. I wasn't content shooting in the 90's and just knew I could do better. However, mever was reignited and I've had it bad since. For the first time I've played a few rounds in the 80's steadily improving until April of this year. I've hit a wall and can't seem to progress past it and I know it's mental coupled with inability to practice more. My point in this long story is, I FULLY UNDERSTAND THE FRUSTRATION YOU FEEL and understand the apparent loss of interest. My regret is that I let that frustration defeat me 20 years ago. If I had only been determined to stick with it and be patient, well, who knows how I could play today. However, now I have limited time for practice and I know that if I can continue to progress it is apparently going to be at a painfully slow pace. IF I'M GOING TO ENJOY GOLF, I'VE GOT TO ACCEPT THIS. I too sometimes think about giving it up, it just isn't worth the frustration. Just think long and hard before you do. If you give it up and two years down the road decide you're going to start again, remember, you're two years behind! Can you |
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badgolfergreg
7/5/2009 9:21:33 PM I've had a similar problem. Except I'm not in the "can't shoot what I once could" camp. I just could never get better. I wasn't content shooting in the 90's and just knew I could do better. However, madjust and accept that things like career, wife and kids are more important and therefore golf has to play second fiddle. Can It become simply a 4 hour refuge and break from family obligations, career, mowing the grass etc? Can you play and forget the score? Can you be content playing "bogie golf" and just enjoy the game? If you can adjust your attitude to accept these then go ahead and play. It sounds like you may need a break to really think this through though. If all that matters is the low scores and you know you cannot do what it takes to maintain those low scores then you know the frustration ahead if you continue like you're going. May need to take up bowling, no scratch that, scores are involved there too! You need to take up fishing if you don't already. But stay away from the fishing tournaments! |